Well for some time (years) the wife and some others have said I am deaf. I just thought it was selective hearing. I Know my top end is reduced due to industrial noise damage.
All the time I have been playing with others (2015) no one has made any comment relating to my sound top end being over the top. Most have commented they like it.
One person has indicated that my sound is too toppy and the bass player with us is too loud.
I Looked into this and personally I think he may have "Cookie Bite" hearing loss. I.e. his mid range has dropped. https://www.hear-it.org/Cookie-bite-hearing-loss-1
Anyway I know I have industrial damage so I have now received hearing aids. Using the ENT department settings I can hear a girdle rustle at 50 yards now.
I have tried setting my sound system using an equaliser to match my hearing - did not make much difference - but the hearing aids do. I can adjust them (got an app).
Now as so many of us have hearing loss - played in bands for many years - industrial damage etc. the issue is that if I set my sound to match my hearing aids then maybe most of the people I play with will hear the sound as too base (muddy). This is because I will reduce the top end.
I have experience of someone with a very toppy sound - he got new hearing aids and things were much better.
So what do we do?